When we want to change – but find it difficult

“You always do that!” Their argument, and his response, was discouragingly familiar. The same critique, the same sulking withdrawal.

“Why do I always do that?” It had been a few months this time – she was beginning to think she had cracked it. But a couple of clicks and she was back in the mire. Her resolutions, once again, proved no match for the strength of her habit.

The desire for change

There are things in all of us that we would love to change but that remain stubbornly ingrained. It can get dispiriting. For some it’s the angry outburst we instantly regret. For others the weak withdrawal when we should have stood our ground. Our failings may differ but the struggle to change is common to all of us. So, can we change? Or is the process of sanctification an elusive mystery fathomed only by the most exceptional of saints?