In a world increasingly dominated by screens and virtual interactions, the significance of face-to-face conversations often gets overshadowed. Recently, I rekindled this understanding during a breakfast meeting with Ian Parkes, affectionately known as 'Parkesy', at Exeter City Football Club.
Our encounter stands as a testament to the irreplaceable value of human connection.
For nearly five years, Parkesy and I have been part of a weekly online gathering hosted by Christians in Sport, tailored for managers and coaches in professional football. Born out of necessity during the Covid lockdowns in March 2020, these sessions feature a 10-minute Bible-based talk before breaking into smaller groups for in-depth discussions. While we've formed bonds and shared insights in the digital realm, the reality hit me as I travelled to Exeter for a preaching engagement: despite our regular Zoom meetings, we had never met in person.
As I waited outside the café, the moment Parkesy stepped out of his car, I experienced a curious revelation. Until that day, I had only ever seen his head — and even on arrival, I could only see his head framed by the car window. However, seeing him in full stature brought a new perspective, reminding me of what actual presence entails.
Over breakfast, our conversation flowed effortlessly — from professional insights about football management to personal stories that painted a richer image of Parkesy. It was an experience marked by laughter, empathy, and warmth only in-person interactions can foster. As we said our goodbyes, the simple act of sharing a hug underscored the significance of this encounter and the human connections we often take for granted.
The reality of the incarnation
This meeting reminded me of a core principle within the Christian faith — the reality of the incarnation. At its heart lies the belief that the Creator of the universe chose to embody human experience. Jesus Christ's decision to become a man underscores the essence of connecting deeply with humanity, enabling Him to experience life's joys and sorrows without compromising His divine nature. Through His death and resurrection, He opened the doors of eternity for believers, a profound act rooted in the importance of presence.
Reflecting on my experience with Parkesy, I recognise God's gift of incarnation. The more time I spend in this world, the clearer it becomes how indispensable personal presence is to fostering strong, meaningful relationships. Through genuine connection, we can offer support in times of need, echoing the purpose of Christ's earthly journey as His disciples.
This week, I am resolved to move away from simply being a 'talking head' in my interactions and instead cultivate first-hand relationships with those around me. As I wrap up this article, I can't help but wish for the opportunity to shake your hand and share a moment, embodying the very principle I'm advocating. Personal presence matters — it's time we embraced it.
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