Challenging well
There comes a time in many a pastoral relationship when words of challenge need to be spoken.
Whether that’s confronting someone with their obvious sin (an affair); rebuking someone for a wayward attitude (pride) or drawing attention to the fact they’re not believing a truth about God (singleness can’t really be a gift, can it?), being able to challenge well is important if people are to grow and persevere in the Christian life.